well...OK,
they ATTEMPTED to come up with a scale of 1-10, but being the lovely females they are, nothing is ever so simple. Their attraction to males is a bit more multi-faceted for a simple linear scale, so it became a list of "do's and don't's" instead. Perhaps not as simple as us men were looking for, but helpful nonetheless.
However, one of the best bits of advice was about short men, specifically, how women are just not attracted to them, and this needs to be expanded a little more for the benefit of our shorter brothers.
If you were like me and every other boy/man in America, you were brought up believing what your parents and teachers told you - that women would like you for you and just be yourself blabbity blah blah blah. You were also maybe told women preferred dark, TALL, men, but that was the extent to which height was addressed. And thus you were sent out into the world, thinking your height was no serious disadvantage. That like you, women weren't bigoted against people shorter than them and just as you were comfortable dating a girl taller than you, women would be comfortable dating men shorter than them.
Oh, how wrong you were. For while not addressed or talked about much, height is arguably the number one thing women look at. And I would go so far to say they are repulsed by shortness on a level almost as much as men are repulsed by fat.
While I have seen no studies, anecdotally there is enough data a study doesn't have to be commissioned. It is usually the case women are shorter than their partner. Only during my "ballroom dancing prime" was I able to score taller girls (and they would usually not stick around). And we can of course take what the ladies at ROQ are saying at face value. But if there is a case study that proves the "shortness handicap" it is my much more ripped IT counterpart. This "friend" is basically me on steroids and improved in every other category.
He makes six figures
He is an infinitely better mechanic than I am
He is a computer genius
He races cars and rides motorcycles
He's way more ripped than I am
Has a nicer house
Has a nicer car
Has a higher networth
oh, and
he is an accomplished dancer AND musician.
You could not really improve a human more.
But, alas, he is 5'9", and that's where he "fails." Matter of fact it was a conversation we had about a month ago that prompted me to look at shortness as such a handicap, and the ROQ piece confirms it. You can be the most accomplished man in every aspect of your life, superior to most of your competitors, but if you're short, you might as well be that "fat girl with a *great* personality."
So what is a short guy to do?
Well the primary purpose of this post is to at least MAKE YOU AWARE of your handicap. I do this NOT to berate you or make you feel bad, but to improve your chances with women. A soldier that goes into battle unaware of his greatest weakness or operating on false information is going to fail compared to a soldier that DOES know his greatest weakness and makes decisions accounting for it. So if you are short (I would say 5'10" or shorter) REALIZE and ACCEPT women are just not going to be as attracted to you.
Don't listen to what your parents say
Don't listen to what your friends who are girls say
Don't listen to what society says
If you are working out, interesting, good looking, and doing everything "right," if you're short THAT is the reason you are failing with women, just like FAT is the reason woman will fail with men.
Second, well while a fat girl can always lose weight (well, according to science and biology anyway, HAR HAR HAR!), a short man simply cannot increase his height. There is no "solution" to height.
Correct, so, like the ladies at ROQ point out, you are merely going to be relegated to shorter girls.
This is alright because, again, men really don't care that much about height. And there's plenty of short girls around. The problem is (as many online dating profiles will show you) short girls are just as picky as their taller female counterparts when it comes to the height of men. Profiles are abound of 5'1" girls DEMANDING a man 6'0" or taller. This "height spread" combined with the fact taller men aren't going to turn down a girl based on height, pushes short men out of the "height market."
Regardless, you're just going to have to "aim low" and not bother approaching taller girls.
Third, lie.
Do women put on makeup?
Do women wear clothes that adjust their shape?
Do women wear heels?
Women lie all the time about their appearance, so the least you can do is lie about your height.
Of course, this isn't Gattica, so how do you lie?
Pull a Prince and get some platform shoes. Nothing 4" or anything as drastic as that, but an additional 1.5" will still look like a "normal" shoes, but mayhaps give you that edge you need.
Fourth, charm. I am a student of Walter Matthau because the man did not look like Steve McQueen, but still managed to be charming. It won't fully compensate for being short (as my IT doppelganger has shown), but a devastating charm can add a couple inches in height.
Finally, if push comes to shove, Asian and Latin countries. Women in these countries tend to be short. And of course this is doing no service to our Asian or Latino brothers, but sorry guys, all's fair. If height is pushing you out of the taller-Anglo/Scandinavian/basketball-player market, you'll just have to go to cultures where women are biologically shorter.
Whatever strategy or strategies you choose to pursue, the key lesson to pull from this is to realize just what a severe handicap being short is for a guy. It's not a "minor" inconvenience. It's not "something shallow girls insist on." It is a genetically hardwired preference of women, neither to be berated or shamed. It is a law, and a law you need to abide by.
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